{"id":25427,"date":"2020-08-05T01:30:28","date_gmt":"2020-08-05T05:30:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/?p=25427"},"modified":"2020-08-14T19:22:18","modified_gmt":"2020-08-14T23:22:18","slug":"sighing-and-moaning","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/2020\/08\/05\/sighing-and-moaning.html","title":{"rendered":"Sighing and Moaning"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>I have been to clubs where the sighing and moaning rising from shadowy bodies around dimly lit rooms seemed beautiful to my ears; where the shared adventure would bring an ex even closer to me by the time we left, as if we had been to another planet together.<\/p>\n<p>With my ex-husband, it was different; he got bored with the marriage and hassled me into trying out one of these places. The first time, I went along with it to please him, but decidedly nervous and repulsed. I saw that there were other women in my situation; they sat in a corner while their husbands went fishing for fun. I decided that wasn&#8217;t for me, so I became curious; this was evidently a game I had never played, so why not observe and try.<\/p>\n<p>Plus, in my simplistic mind, the fact that my husband was doing this meant that he didn&#8217;t love me anymore, so what the hell. I learned to be\u00a0 ore discerning later on with an ex who navigated me through such experiences with such an innate understanding of what I was feeling that we both got the same kicks or deceptions or excitement out of it.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I have been to clubs where the sighing and moaning rising from shadowy bodies around dimly lit rooms seemed beautiful to my ears; where the shared adventure would bring an ex even closer to me by the time we left, as if we had been to another planet together. With my ex-husband, it was different; [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-25427","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-181-2","et_post_format-et-post-format-quote","et-has-post-format-content"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paumAn-6C7","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25427","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=25427"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25427\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":25699,"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/25427\/revisions\/25699"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=25427"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=25427"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=25427"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}