{"id":47811,"date":"2026-03-15T07:00:03","date_gmt":"2026-03-15T11:00:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/2026\/03\/15\/saw-her.html"},"modified":"2026-03-15T07:00:03","modified_gmt":"2026-03-15T11:00:03","slug":"saw-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wsbj.com\/sorabji\/2026\/03\/15\/saw-her.html","title":{"rendered":"Saw Her"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">On the R train today. She was half-asleep, covered by her hoodie such that I was not certain it was her. Hands exposed, I can&#8217;t help questioning what it meant that she had a ring, a rock no less, and that the rock has rolled. Maybe it just does not make sense to wear it at whatever job she reports to. Maybe she lost it. I&#8217;m certain I saw it, but only once. She did not look like the confident, strng woman I observed previously. That is not a comment, just an observation. A passing observation as if caring for a stranger is perfectly appropriate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">With somewhat warmer weather and the N train being a bitch about things I&#8217;ve walked the extra distance to the R at Steinway Street. They are not as numerous as in the summer months but the ballers\u00a0 and bangers and clubbers and whatever else they&#8217;re called today still ake their pilgrimage to the St. James Deli on 34th Avenue, home of Astoria&#8217;s most famous tacos. Or maybe not. They were famous to me and the others when I spent a few months living the nightowl life, leaving the bar at 10am smelling like an ash tray because smoking was allowed in the illegal overnight bars. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As I passed the small but raucous gather at St. James today I found myself looking at windows in the apartment builsings and houses, wanting to know what lives were being lived behind those thin sheets of glass. As I left my building the stark, full-visible image of a new neighbor across the street appeared in his kitchen window. I&#8217;ve seen countless people pass through that apartment, never knowing or trading words with a single one. The naked dudee seems to have moved on but the mixed-race couple, where the dude might have been 6&#8217;3&#8243; tall and the woman a petite 5&#8217;1 and 100 pounds, always intrigued me. They sat on the stoop and had long conversations, about what? I don&#8217;t know. They seemed emotional but I&#8217;ve found that appearances of deep, bonding, soul-searching conversation often end up being conversations about who&#8217;s going to wash the dishes and how many napkins are left in the napkin drawer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I used to see a big-breasted woman who lifted her breasts under crossly-folded arms. Defensive by appearance I never knew anything except that she posted an announcement that her driveway was for reant for large vehicle parking. At the time that would have been perfect for me, as I had a large Lincoln Town Car and the opportunity to park it right across the street within eyeshot would have been awesome. But I missed it. Someone else got the spot, and I believe it was that big-breasted woman who informed me of this via email. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We don&#8217;t communicate as people anymore. The conversations we have in digital spaces filla meta space in the streets and in the air. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I saw her again the R today. I may see her again tomorrow. Today I should see the Muslim girl who last week talked about talking about me with her friends or maybe family. They were talking about how I get 10,000 steps in every day and she was asking how that&#8217;s even possible when I work a full-time sit-on-ass-all-day job. It&#8217;s actually easier for me to get 10k in a work day than a free day because of the structured time. But I get those steps almost every single day, coming up on 365 days with only 5 or 6 days skipped. In the culture of streaks you&#8217;re allowed to skip a day here or there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Today I&#8217;ll see the Muslim girl, tomorrow I&#8217;m hoping the beautiful, and I mean gut-achingly beautiful black woman reappears. After our first positive-feeling encounters she has not returned to this workplace in 2 or 3 weeks. I have no idea what her name is or anything else about her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>On the R train today. She was half-asleep, covered by her hoodie such that I was not certain it was her. 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